JEALOUS OR JUSTIFIED?

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In our new segment “Jealous or Justified we ask our readers to analyze the situation and see if the person is being Jealous or if they are Justified in feeling the way they feel.

Please keep in mind that the term “Jealous” can mean many things in the context of this segment. It doesn’t and won’t always mean jealous in its true meaning. Perhaps the person is just in their feeling a bit too much.

Beautiful Machine Magazine Presents Jealous or Justified...

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Submitted by Che’

I’ve been single for about five months. My ex and I decided to “take a break” from our relationship as things had begun to get a little tense between us; during this time we agreed we wouldn’t see each other, go on dates and we’d behave as single people. We outlined these stipulations so we wouldn’t feel like we were making things up as we went along and we wanted to avoid feelings being hurt as much as we could.

Even though we agreed not to see each other we have still been talking just about every day. Most of the time we keep it friendly but I admit we do also discuss getting back together. We still have a lot of feelings for each other.

I finally gave in and asked if I could see her. She was honestly a bit more reluctant than I anticipated, especially since she kept saying how much she missed me but she eventually agreed to let me take her to dinner.


Everything was going well, but I could tell she was holding onto something she wanted to say. After a few minutes of me pushing, with teary eyes she told me that during our split she had been intimate with someone and was now pregnant. I could feel my face turning white as the words left her lips.

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After what felt like an eternity of silence she asked me to take her home. On the ride she insisted that they had used protection but the condom popped and by the time they realized it was too late. She even took a Plan B but that obviously failed as well. My head was spinning! I had been with other women during our downtime too but I always used protection and the condom never popped.

During the three years we were together, we’ve had two failed pregnancies. This is what fueled her decision to keep the child in conjunction with her prayers that she could carry a baby to full term.

This isn’t how we imagined it would happen, but she’s now 3 &1/2 months pregnant with her first child which is already longer than she carried both of our babies. It’s not just the pregnancy but the fact that if we hadn’t broken up none of this would have ever happened.

She wants to work things out and believes that we can still have a relationship. But I just don’t think my pride will let me.

Am I Jealous or Justified??