By Shawn Binion


Do you ever want to have sex, but your body is just not aligned with your thoughts? Are there ever times that you wish you had a greater appetite for sex, but the desire is just not there? Have you ever started to engage in sex, but had an issue with performing? If you have ever had any of these experiences, then you should pay close attention to this article.


Libido, otherwise known as sex drive, varies from person-person and can change throughout one’s lifetime. Various factors can contribute to the functioning of a person’s libido and there are ways to take better control of yours. The most common things that impact the libido are age, hormones, medication, sleep habits, menopause, depression, stress, low testosterone, painful sex, relationship problems and overall lifestyle choices. Let’s delve into the reason these factors can have a negative impact on your sex drive and ways to counter the effects.


Did you know that an unhealthy diet can wreak havoc on your libido? Over time, consuming fatty, greasy and processed foods can lead to a diminished sex drive, reduced sensitivity, decreased testosterone levels and alter sperm production. On the contrary, maintaining a healthy diet can do just the opposite. Consuming greater amounts of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, spices and herbs can significantly improve the sex drive and properly regulate testosterone. Eating healthy amounts of protein and complex carbohydrates can also have a positive impact on a person’s libido.

There are some specific things you can incorporate in your diet to help give your libido a boost. The natural herb, Maca Root, has the ability to increase sexual desire, improve semen production, soothe symptoms of menopause and improve energy levels. It is easy to include Maca in your diet by taking it as a supplement or adding the powder to tea, smoothies, baked goods and more. Another natural herb that is known to increase sexual pleasure and help reverse erectile dysfunction is Tribulus. This herb is available in both a pill and powder form and can be taken as a supplement. Ginseng is also known to greatly improve libido as well as help treat erectile dysfunction in men. This herb can be consumed in a variety of ways but is most often taken in pill form as a supplement. Ginseng can also be peeled and chewed, boiled to make a tea, made into an extract for drinking or added to certain foods. Ginkgo Biloba is said to be an aphrodisiac that helps relax blood vessels and increase blood flow. The herb has positive effects on the libido of both sexes, but it is especially useful for women experiencing sexual dysfunction due to menopause. You can find Ginkgo Biloba in the forms of tablets, liquid extracts and dried leaf for teas. Garlic contains high levels of allicin which increase blood flow to the sexual organs of both men and women. This can be especially beneficial in helping to treat erectile dysfunction. The best way to consume garlic is by adding it to your food, but it can also be taken in pill form as a supplement.


There are certain lifestyle choices that can either serve to enhance or inhibit a person’s sexual functioning. Did you know that drinking too much alcohol can reduce your ability to perform as well impede your capacity to have an orgasm? Some people feel that drinking alcohol before sex helps to get them in the mood, but consuming large amounts of alcohol can have just the opposite effect. If you must drink to get yourself going, then try limiting it to one glass of wine. Remember that alcohol is a depressant that can dampen the mood, decrease sexual desire and make it difficult for a man to reach orgasm. Also, it is likely to lead to erectile dysfunction over time. If you are looking to improve or maintain optimal sexual functioning, it would also be wise to avoid smoking. Smoking tobacco can have a negative impact on a person’s cardiovascular system by damaging blood circulation. In fact, the degree of exposure to smoking can be directly correlated to erectile dysfunction in men. Other effects associated with smoking can include lack of lubrication, decreased fertility and an earlier onset of menopause. If you do smoke, quitting can reverse these negative effects over time.

Exercising regularly and maintaining a healthy weight can contribute to keeping your libido functioning properly. Being overweight or obese can lead to a low sex drive and reduced fertility. These effects are associated with hormonal factors such as lower testosterone concentrations. Additionally, being obese can impact the psyche by leading to overall lack of body confidence. It is important to exercise regularly to avoid carrying excess weight and to keep your sex drive going. Exercise is known to produce feel-good endorphins, increase blood flow, lower cortisol levels and reduce stress. All of these things can have a positive influence on your libido.

Both stress and anxiety can have an adverse effect on sexual functioning in both sexes. One of the effects is the narrowing of blood vessels which in turn leads to less blood flowing to the sexual organs. Blood flow to the sexual organs is essential to becoming and staying aroused. Chronic stress can affect testosterone production and lead to erectile dysfunction or impotence. It is important to reduce stress and anxiety in order to function optimally in the bedroom or wherever you choose to have sex. Some stress/anxiety reducing activities that you can incorporate in your everyday life are meditation, sports activities, yoga, tai chi, a fun hobby or therapy.

Many people underestimate the importance of getting adequate rest in relation to sexual health. A person that is not getting enough sleep will usually experience an overall decrease in energy. Exhaustion can undoubtedly lead to a lack of sexual desire. The majority of adults lead busy lives and can find it difficult to get the proper amount of quality sleep that will allow their bodies to feel rejuvenated. Try scheduling your rest by going to sleep and waking up at the same times each day. Also, indulge in naps whenever possible.


If you are having struggles in your relationship, it is likely that those issues will manifest in the bedroom. People often underestimate the degree to which relationship discord can affect sexual functioning. When you have unresolved conflict with your partner, those feelings will always lie dormant in your subconscious mind. These feelings can lead to resentment that play out during moments of intimacy. It is best to keep open communication in an effort to put these unresolved conflicts to rest and prevent sexual dysfunction between you and your partner.

Improving the quality of your relationship can be vital to increasing sexual desire towards your mate. The beginning of a relationship is usually the best part because everything is new and partners are taking the time to have fun and to get to know each other. This tends to dwindle over time as people become settled and used to one another. In many cases, one or both partners start lacking at doing the basic things that built attraction at the onset of the courtship. In order to keep that sexual desire for your partner flowing, it’s important to keep things fresh and exciting. Some ways of doing this is by having regular date nights, doing fun activities together, practicing open communication and switching things up in the bedroom from time-to-time. Keep in mind that complacency can be detrimental to a relationship and a definite libido killer.

Engaging in foreplay can have a tremendous effect on how you function sexually with your partner. It is a fact that most women need clitoral stimulation in order to become sexually aroused. Therefore, skipping straight to penetration will put both you and your partner at a disadvantage. Just because you may be aroused does not mean your partner automatically feels the same way. Be sure to take the time to get to know what it takes to get your mates juices flowing before you actually do the do. The immense satisfaction experienced when both people are at the peak of arousal is beyond rewarding. Prior to engaging in intercourse, try spending more time on outercourse. This involves touching, kissing, performing oral sex and using toys. Send your partner sexually explicit pics throughout the day to build up his/her arousal for when you two finally come together. Also, try having sex in places outside of the bedroom to make things more exciting.


If you are struggling with maintaining a healthy libido, you’re definitely not alone. Take charge of it by implementing the tips given in this article and by just being patient with yourself and your partner. Also, be aware that there could be some underlying health issues associated with decreased libido. You should consult with your doctor if any of the following occur: a decrease in libido appears suddenly or without explanation, additional symptoms such as high blood pressure or pain also appear, it occurs after starting a new medication or after having surgery, it causes serious relationship problems or psychological distress, or sex has become painful.