In this Jealous or Justified, Why is my Friend taking advantage of me like this?


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My girlfriend and I have been best friends since the seventh grade. We are more like sisters, I could finish her sentences and she could finish mine. We both had a knack for fashion at an early age so after high school I went to cosmetology school and started my career as a hairdresser and she started a fashion blog that became successful quickly.

Her business has grown rapidly and I am very proud of her, her blog is very popular and I support her in every way. Her success is no surprise to me, she’s smart, talented and loves fashion and entertainment so it’s really a labor of love instead of work for her.

My business is also starting to grow, I just opened my own hair salon and I am very excited about the future. I have built a solid clientele but I want to do so much more.

I have been styling my friends hair every since we were teenagers. I always get extra creative and keep her hairstyles current because she gets to go to some very cool places like award shows and celebrity parties, she interviews famous people that really look to her for style advice. On more than one occasion people have complimented her on her hair and asked her who does her hair and to my surprise she always tells them she does it herself. This has really hurt my feelings because those were wonderful opportunities for her to really help me grow my business.

After a while I couldn’t take it anymore, I finally asked her why won’t you tell people that I’m the one that does your hair. I couldn’t believe what she said, she told me that she didn’t want me to get so busy that I couldn’t take care of her.
That was one of the most selfish things I’ve ever heard. So I asked her to start paying me for my services not out of spite but because I needed to make more money for my shop plus, I spend three hours a week on her when I could be servicing a paying client. I didn’t think it would be a big deal; she’s making a lot of money and she’s very demanding of my time. To add insult to injury, she got an attitude and said why she should have to pay, it broke my heart to hear her say that.

I’ve never asked her for anything, I’ve watched while she took her new friends to places she knew I’d love to have gone. She’s given other people designer clothes that she couldn’t fit knowing I was saving all my money to get my shop open. I’ve watched all of this without saying a word and still supporting her the whole time.

This has put me in a position where I’m contemplating ending our friendship altogether. I can’t be friends with someone so selfish, I love her like family but I am hurt beyond belief.

Am I wrong to feel this way? I would never treat her this way, I think I’m ready to leave this friendship behind?

Please help me,

Am I Jealous or Justified?

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