“Jealous or Justified is a monthly segment where we ask our readers to analyze the situation of someone who has asked for our help to see if the person is being Jealous or are they Justified in feeling the way they feel.
Please keep in mind that the term “Jealous” can mean many things in the context of this segment. It doesn’t and won’t always mean jealous in its true meaning. Perhaps the person is just in their feeling a bit too much.
My brother Marvin and I are twins. We were the typical boys growing up playing sports, chasing girls, and always getting on our sister Karen's nerves. It was so cool being identical twins.
We were inseparable and we did everything together. We lived our lives to the fullest.
After college, our career paths lead us in separate directions. I pursued my culinary arts dream, and my brother worked in the fashion industry as a garment buyer.
I was excited about our futures but a little sad because for the first time we were apart.
When the holidays came around, we were all so happy to see one another and reminisce about our childhood. All you would hear at the table was twins this, or the twins that.
Some time had passed and I hadn’t seen my brother for almost two years. I could never catch up with him. It seemed his job kept him really busy, he was always on the road.
Oddly, I get a call from him saying that he really needed to tell me something, I was surprised because we're close and we never had secrets, so I was very nervous.
He then tells me "I’ve always had a desire to be a woman", I thought he was playing, then he said he no longer wanted to carry this weight, and that he has been going through his transformation to become a woman for the last past year as and that’s why he'd had been hard to reach.
He then says he no longer wants to be recognized as, my brother or twin anymore. I was devastated and we abruptly ended the call and we didn't speak for two more years. I tried calling but he never answered the phone.
When we finally spoke again, he told me that he was now legally a woman, that he had gender reassignment surgery, and that he had changed his name to Natalie and I was his sister now. I honestly was in shock and didn't know what to do or say.
Unfortunately, the following year, our dad passed away. Our Father was a very affluent man so he left a lot of assets behind. He owned a very successful construction company and an equally successful bakery. At the funeral, my Father's long-time Attorney said we had to meet and go over my Father's will.
In the will, my Dad left the construction company to his sons (me and my twin) and the bakery to his daughter, Karen. My Dad never accepted my brother Marvin's decision to transition and didn't recognize him as a daughter. It appears from the will, that my brother who now is legally a woman named Natalie is not entitled to anything, including no longer being entitled to half of the construction company.
My Dad's lawyer signed over everything to my original sister, Karen, as our Mom had also passed away. Karen & I offered Natalie some money but she is demanding half of the construction company.
I'm not willing to do that. Natalie made it loud and clear that she no longer wanted to be my brother or my twin. So I'm going to respect her wishes.
Beautiful Machine, am I wrong, or should I give her half of the company?
Am I Jealous or Justified?
Posted on 02/01/2023 at 10:00 AM