“Jealous or Justified is a monthly segment where we ask our readers to analyze the situation of someone who has asked for our help to see if the person is being Jealous or are they Justified in feeling the way they feel.

Please keep in mind that the term “Jealous” can mean many things in the context of this segment. It doesn’t and won’t always mean jealous in its true meaning. Perhaps the person is just in their feeling a bit too much.

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Lost in Love…
Kim Writes: Guys, I need your help!

I met an amazing man about three years ago. When we first met, he told me that he didn't want a serious relationship; he wanted to focus on his business and have a friend to have fun with and hang out with when time allowed. Of course, like all men, he wanted sex too. I was hesitant about having this sort of relationship, but he was so nice, handsome, and charming that I couldn't resist. As I got to know him more, I liked him even more. Over the last two years, we had a wonderful time together. We traveled, grew as individuals, and improved our lives since we met. Honestly, I was falling in love with him. Our sex life was incredible, he provided for me financially, and he was always there when I needed him. One day, seemingly out of nowhere, he ended our situation. He explained that he was ready to find a committed relationship. He said he enjoyed our time together, but for us to grow, we had to separate. I was devastated; I knew this day could possibly come, but I thought he had fallen in love with me.

A few months ago, I saw him out on a date and I was so angry that I confronted him, thinking he was cheating on me. My emotions got the best of me and I reacted in a very negative way. Yet, he remained calm and actually tried to calm me down, asking me to sit down with him and his date. He then explained our past situation to his date and told me, in front of her, that we could no longer be friends as it wouldn't be healthy for either of us. I felt embarrassed and stupid. He was so kind and considerate even after I had embarrassed him. I love this man, he is everything a girl could ask for, and I want him for myself. I don't know what to do - should I fight for the man of my dreams or accept that I agreed to a situation I couldn't handle and it is now over?

Please help me.