In this Jealous or Justified, "I have found out a shocking secret about my fiancé, should I call off our engagement?"


“Jealous or Justified is a monthly segment where we ask our readers to analyze the situation of someone who has asked for our help to see if the person is being Jealous or are they Justified in feeling the way they feel.

Please keep in mind that the term “Jealous” can mean many things in the context of this segment. It doesn’t and won’t always mean jealous in its true meaning. Perhaps the person is just in their feeling a bit too much.

Ashly and I meet at a faith retreat that we both attend annually. From the moment I saw her I knew that she was the one, we had the same spiritual beliefs, background, and life goals.

She even enjoyed watching football with me, this was a no-brainer. Even her family was great, they even gave me a high-salary job at their company.

Another thing Ashly and I had in common was, we were both risk-takers and didn’t mind a battle here and there. It made our relationship very exciting and we were soon in love. We made it official after a while by announcing we were engaged.

Our Families and friends were so excited about our wedding plans. Due to our religious beliefs, she decided to refrain from premarital sex, it was very difficult but she was worth it to me.

Last week Ashly and I attended a friend's party, the party was in another city so we decided to just stay overnight. We had a great time, we danced laughed, and drank way too much. After stumbling back to our room I started to get frisky with Ashley, and this time she was okay with it.

As we started to kiss and make out, I slipped my hands down her underwear and I instantly jumped back and said “what is that?!”, she replied, "I was born with two parts." I was stunned.

She continued, "I'm a Hermaphrodite but I'm a woman. I can have children because I’m female.'' I calmed down and she explained that she was born with a sex organs of both a male and female and because she was born this way her beliefs didn't align with her altering her body so I didn’t get it cut off.

I was so confused, I told her I couldn't deal with this shocking news. I urged her that in order for us to continue with our marriage, she'd have to get rid of the male parts. She replied, "I'm not changing God's work plus I get pleasure from it." I was breathless, she asked if this was going to stop our future plans I told her I didn't know.

Guys, I need your help, I love her more than anything but I don't think I can handle this. We were taught that God doesn't make mistakes so could this be a test of my faith? Would I be wrong to call off our engagement?

I don't know what to do, please help me! Am I am overreacting? Or is my reaction Justified?

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