Dear Dr. Sabrina:

As I approach Valentine’s Day, I am simply tormented. Ok, let me give you, my story. I am a 45-year-old white woman who is an executive for a Fortune 500 company. I am single and have NO children. Due to the fact that my biological clock is keeping me up at night and I was not in a serious relationship, I started to pursue alternative methods to become a mother. It is my dream to be married with children and I had been engaged but he became very controlling, so I broke it off.

In 2019, I began to have my eggs harvested and frozen. I spent a lot of time meeting with specialists and family. I decided to try to get pregnant by selecting sperm. I have been trying with 2 times not resulting in me being pregnant. Well, I have met the man of my dreams. He is attentive, caring, romantic, and totally different than any man I have ever dated. We have been talking about marriage and I want to spend the rest of my days with this man.

The problem is he does not want children. I have told him I really still want children however he has gotten a vasectomy. He shared that he was told he was the father of an ex-girlfriend and after 5 years learned he was not the father. I have been informed by my doctor that the last procedure worked, and I am pregnant!!!! I am so excited and terrified at the same time. Due to the fact that my love does not want children, should I just break things off now and continue my plans as a single mother.

Help!

This Mom-To-Be