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Dr. Sabrina:

I hear you talk about forgiveness a lot and I have been agreeing with you as I had never really had to deal with any major injustice. Well, I can no longer say that. I am a 66 year old black man and I have been married to my wife for 40 years. We have 4 children who are now adults and out of the home. We have really embraced being empty-nesters and we have taken ballroom dancing lessons, travelled internationally, and we keep the home fires burning (if you get my hint, Dr.)

I am simply crushed as I have learned that my oldest daughter (the apple of my eye) is NOT MINE! She is the oldest of the 4 children and I was in the military when she was born. My wife told me that she conceived after my basic training during a visit prior to me being shipped out. I never thought anything of it. Well, my daughter has been diagnosed with an illness that requires a Bone Marrow transplant. The whole family got tested and through that experience, I learned my daughter and I were not a DNA match.

My wife then shared with me that she had an affair and after that encounter found out she was pregnant. She never told the other man that it was possible he was the father. My head is spinning. Of course, I do still love my daughter and my wife. I am just so hurt right now.

I would like to hear what you have to say ...should I try to forgive or leave my wife??

Devastated Dad