How to Make a Guy Sexually Addicted to You (6 Steps That Always Work)

By Matthew Coast


Okay so you know you’re ready to be intimate with him. What do you do to make sure he becomes “addicted” to your love?

Step 1: Do your kinky research.
Let’s be honest, most guys aren’t too shy about revealing their sexual quirks and even if he’s not inclined to confess right away, you can get a fantasy out of him in no time.

If he likes lingerie, indulge his eyes. If he likes dirty talking, shock him and turn his face red with some great “borrowed” lines from sexy movies or books.

Think a little bit more about what he fantasizes about, with you, and give him that fantasy. It’s a lot more enjoyable than just waiting for him to chow down.

Step 2: Be a little bit more aggressive.
Most women are too shy when it comes to the bedroom, which is why guys frequently confess their hottest fantasies involve women who take charge. The most common fantasies for men are always aggressive women; porn stars, out-of-control cougars, nymphos “seducing” him at work, and so on.

Instead of doing missionary and partying like it’s the year 1799, opt for a woman-on-top position and show him how mad your passion can be. Unpredictability and variety is what casinos use to create addiction in gambling…
It’s the same principle here except that you creating something new in sex.

Step 3: Always want more.
Very few men are going to complain if their wife/girlfriend “always wants sex.” In fact, most men complain that their partners seem to lose interest in sex after a few years pass. Maybe the guy likes indulging in steamy and forbidden fantasies…and yet his partner seems satisfied with the usual routine.

Here’s the ugly truth. A lot of your girlfriends today will tell you that it’s a man’s job to properly romance and arouse the woman, to get her interested in sex again. And sure, that’s a great feminist message and all.

But it’s not going to make him sexually addicted to you, is it?

If you want a man to become your sex slave, like putty in your hands, then you must butter up his ego and give him the red-hot sex life he craves. Find out what turns him on and give it to him, always seeking his pleasure. Give him the quantity and quality he yearns for, and do it better than anyone else he’s ever had.

If he’s a decent guy, trust me, he will reciprocate that attention and ensure you get your pleasure too.

What is not a good idea is to wait around, go days or weeks without sex, and figure everything’s okay because hubby / boyfriend hasn’t complained. Wrong…he’s already grumpy about it, I guarantee you.

Hey, I tell you this. Controlling a man is remarkably easy. Identify his needs. Fulfill those needs. Do it so well that he feels like he owes you one. In fact, study the “competition” (other women he likes) and give him what they “got” even better than they could. He will worship the ground you walk on!

Step 4: Torture him with longer…much longer…sessions.
Guys might never ask you to extend foreplay. In our culture, foreplay seems to be associated with men giving women their “due”, and slowing down the journey to orgasm. So because of ego, social constructs, weird guy issues and yada yada…they might never even think of this simple idea.

Make it longer.

Be aggressive and slow down the foreplay without asking for permission. Sexually torture him by teasing him longer and “edging” him towards orgasm…but then drop off in intensity. Now start again, doing something else that makes him melt with desire.

Men are usually very sensitive around their neck, ears, thighs and belly. Vary the tension and pressure of your touch or kiss. Watch his face and body to see how he reacts to you and then respond with more intense foreplay.

Just when he can’t take it anymore, that’s when you go for the genitals and give him a finish he will be raving about for days. In fact, he’ll be so eager to finish he may literally beg you. And that’s always a sign you’ve done it right!

Step 5: Don’t fall into the jealousy trap.
Lastly, don’t be intimidated by a man’s interest in other women. It’s bound to happen, and it may be a little unpleasant to think of your guy checking someone else out. But it’s human nature to look. What a truly amazing woman does is let her man feel the freedom to look and be himself. If you were always attracted to his sexual confidence and virility, then why would you suddenly try to limit or suppress it?

After all…just because he looks doesn’t mean he’s going to cheat.

And just because you listen to his kinkiest fantasies (and maybe roleplay occasionally) doesn’t mean he’s bored or doesn’t respect you. It simply means you want him to be more sexually adventurous and to pass some of that taboo erotic energy he feels onto you!

Have fun with each other and develop a relationship that has “no filter”. Great sex all starts with intimate communication, the kind where nothing is ever censored or held back because of embarrassment. Use your feelings and taboo fantasies to make your sex life twice as hot!

Step 6: Talk about everything…negotiate and find a menu of activities you can both enjoy.
Many couples today make the mistake of not talking about forbidden sexual practices and thus miss out on the fun of intimate conversation.

When you create a sexual bucket list with your guy, these are not “must try activities.” Rather they are just ideas…just fodder for some sexy conversation. Determining each other’s “hard limits” is just a part of the negotiating process. You both have the option of saying yes, no, or maybe. That’s the fun part, talking it over, laughing, blushing, and negotiating.

And who knows…maybe you’ll be surprised to find that you both answered “maybe” to one of your forbidden kinks!

This is the type of woman a man loves and can easily become sexually addicted to—a woman who matches him in the bedroom in terms of imagination and daring.

Sex isn’t something you tolerate or “give him” as a reward. It’s something you both enjoy because you NEED that intimacy with each other. You have needs just like he does. And the more great sex you have, the more you discover you need a regular supply of this lovely natural drug.

Fortunately, there’s no need for rehab with this kind of addiction. Keep those love chemicals flowing and make some more love instead of war.